Islam: What are the rulings of getting married and having children?
Posted On : February 28th, 2010
Tags: aan, Answer, ayaat, discussion, fardh, Islam, Jazakallah, kairun, Qur, Someone, Yahoo, yahoo answersIs it fardh (compulsory) in Islam to get married? If someone didn’t get married because they didn’t want to, would they be punished? If someone was married, do they have to have children? If they didn’t want children would they be punished?
Please answer sensibly and if possible give me hadiths or ayaat from the Qur’aan.
Jazakallah hu kairun.
- *Continuing the discussion from the original post found at Yahoo! Answers.
Islam is being of the one true religion of peace. You are being of such with this or we are being of chopping off your heads!
From what I have learned from reading the koran, ahadith and various “holy” rulings, women and men in islam have a duty to hump and make more little muslims to spread the cancer, oops, I meant religion of islam further. Looks like your only way out is to become an infidel.
Oh my gizzles, David, my lil’ stalker. Tie me up and whisper verses of the koran in my ear. *gags* Flipping douchebag.
I remember hearing (don’t know if it is in the qu’ran or hadith) that getting married is half the din.
Why? Partly because it produces offspring who in turn turn to Islam and Allah, the true path. Another may be because it opens a new stage and is beneficial to a person as he/she grows older since it gives him/her something new in his life.
It is not fardh, if they don’t want to get married its fine. Although…what is the point of getting married if you do not want to have children?
As far as i know
in Islam Marriage is not mandatory but its very recommended in order to avoid sinful relation ships
and having children is not a must
…from the “rants” of Muhammad (the qu’ran) it instructs men to marry “4″ wives and BEAT them if they become disobedient ! (qu’ran 4:34)
marriage is just a sunnah of the prophet. it is not wajib.
and you cannot give birth to children without having a spouse. So if you dont get married… then you cant give birth.
Salams sister!
You can’t be forced to do anyhting but i think we all want to get married at some point and have kids at some point too so don’t think too much on it. If you cannot hower have children then marriage is nor compulsary.
Salam alykum, sister.
Bismillahir rahmanir rahim.
All praise be to Allah.
Allah says in Quran (interpretation of the meaning):
“And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidence, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember.”
( سورة البقرة , Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #221)
“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Salihun (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people).”
( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #32)
Prophet Muhammad said,
Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 4
Narrated ‘Abdullah:
We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah’s Apostle said, “O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.”
Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62 :: Hadith 1
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, “Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.” Then one of them said, “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.” The other said, “I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.” The third said, “I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.” Allah’s Apostle came to them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).”
So,we can see that marriage is not obligatory but highly recommended by the Prophet himself.But it becomes obligatory for him who is unable to control his urge and may commit zina.
The Prophet (pbuh) is reported to have said: “Marry the one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers before the nations [i.e., on the Day of Resurrection].” (Abu Dawood Hadith no. 2050, Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 1805
And again we see here that it is highly recommeded by the Prophet(pbuh) to have children.But it is not obligatory and i think is not a punishable offence in the hereafter.
Regarding marriage is half a deen,
Anas ibn Maalik (R) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (S) said:
whoever Allaah blesses with a righteous wife, then He has assisted him in half of his deen. So therefore, let him fear Allaah in the other half. (Al-Mustadrak: 10/2681) Al-Albaanee declared the hadeeth hasan in Saheeh At-Targheeb (1916)
here is Al-Manaawee explanation of this hadith:
‘That is because the greatest trial that takes a significant toll on a person’s deen are the desires of the stomach and the desires of the private parts, and a righteous woman safeguards a man from zinaa, which accounts for the first half. Hence, the second half remains and that is the desires of the stomach. Thus he (S) advised him with taqwaa so he can perfect his deen and obtain istiqaamah (be upright and obedient).’ He also said, “He (S) specifically mentioned a righteous wife because a woman who is otherwise may safeguard her husband from zinaa, however she would make him bend his back over trying to obtain worthless things from that which is haraam.” (Al-Faydul-Qadeer: hadeeth nos. 8704)
And again according to Sahih Bukhari, Volume No. 7, Ch. No. 3 Hadith No 4 it says that ‘the Prophet ordained the young men, all those who have the means to marry, they should marry – For it will help them to lower their gaze and guard their modesty.
There is another Hadith related by Anas, in which the Prophet said… ‘Any one who marries completes half his deen’.
Somebody may ask, ‘does it imply that if I marry twice I will be completing my full deen?’
NO!When the Prophet said that… ‘When you marry you complete half your deen’ – It means that when you marry it shields you from promiscuity, it shields you from fornication, it shields you from homosexuality, which lead to half the sin in this world.
If you have more doubts email me.
JazakAllah.